November's Letter
Everyone that has had a rocky October put your hand up.
People who are intro astrology – can you tell us, has some planet been in retrograde or something? What has been going on?!
Let’s talk about it…
Loss can be incredibly painful and significantly knock our sense of self and faith in the world. Pain can make you act wildly and selfishly, or timidly and reclusively. Sometimes in the face of severe betrayal we may feel full of wrath and wish to seek vengeance. Sometimes instead, we may want to block out the hurt or loss and repress it down into the deepest ravines of our minds.
Whether it be a physical loss such as something sentimental, a job, money, or perhaps something more serious like a limb (it HAS been Halloween after all. Who made it through some of those horror theme parks?!) – Anyway, loss can make you experience a very tangible shift in your position in society as well as impact your perception of self. You may face a very real and heavy jolt of anxiety, pain, insecurity or knock to your belief in ability. But what about less obvious or “less serious” losses, such as a friend or a relationship? How does that disable our path and taint the lenses of our once rose-coloured glasses?
Loss, no matter its form, can be devastating and leave a hard and weighted thumb print on our backs, dragging us down physically or emotionally, which – at times – may cause our knees to buckle. Experiencing loss, especially if it was traumatic, can leave its mark on us for years.
So how do you cope with this? How do you find your feet and take your beginning step, realigning yourself back on your desired path, before everything got thrown into the air? How do you accept your loss and finally, move on?
You remind yourself not of your losses, but of your gains and what you already have.
Rejoice in the dear memories of fun nights with friends, family and lovers – regardless if they are still in your life or not. Allow yourself to enjoy them/it for what it was. As you step into this cold weather, wrap around you the scarf of all your inner strengths and great qualities – your humour, your kindness, your loyalty. Pull on the metaphorical boots of toughness, of your perseverance, the representation of your grind, your work ethic, and your values – remember how far you have walked in those shoes. Slide your hands into your warm gloves - the hands that have achieved so much, enabled you to complete tasks you never thought you could, to care for your elderly parents or young children – to teach, to give love, and comfort. The hands that have cooked and cleaned and built the beautiful home which you love and cherish.
To cope with loss, you be grateful and say “Thank you”.
Thank you to all you have, all you have had, and all that you have learnt. A loss is never truly a loss but rather an opportunity for change, to develop and to ‘up’ yourself onto that next level. The universe throws us strange and challenging curve balls or hurtful situations – but with every grey November cloud, there exists a silver lining. We must look back at our losses, enjoy and appreciate them for what they once were and what they afforded us. We must remember that in life, nothing lasts forever. At some point we must say goodbye to everything and remember that the special things – the really important stuff - can never really truly be taken from us, because we got to experience them, and that will always be with us.
So be grateful, allow yourself to remember with fondness, say thank you, and let go.
Welcome to November.
